For many, Mothers day can be lovely, full of flowers, gifts, good food, family and treats which is lovely but sometimes we forget those who may feel very down around this time so I wanted to talk about mental health during Mothers day as It’s a topic I feel very passionate about.
Loss of a mother – Many people will feel the pain of spending mothers day without their mothers which is really painful. Whilst the world is celebrating this time and there is so much media coverage around it, it can be a really tough time for those who have lost their mothers no matter how old or young they are. Some will have lost their mothers to illness or accidents causing them to pass away whilst others will have been taken away from their mums and put into foster care, with family members or adoption.
No matter what level the loss is, it is still a very hard time of year and causes our emotions and mental health to decline. Some will cope better than others but the pain is still there and is very real. For me, my godmother passed away on Valentines day and my family and I feel pain this Mothers day but I cannot imagine how my cousins must feel spending their first year without their mum. It is a very sensitive time and one that should be carefully handled to ensure we take care of ourselves and others who may be struggling with loss.
Distance – If lockdown has taught us one thing, it’s to cherish the time we have with loved ones, and my goodness don’t we know it. With Mothers day coming faster than we can even imagine, we are having to still spend time apart due to lockdown here in the UK. Sadly restrictions haven’t lifted soon enough for us to be able to celebrate Mothers day with some normality. Although we have doorstep socially distanced visits and zoom calls, let’s face it, it’s not the same and all we want to do is be around our family, hugging, sharing laughter and feeling joy as we move into Spring. We can also struggle where our mothers may be in nursing or support homes where visits aren’t allowed due to Covid19 and it is damn hard. It is so isolating for mothers and their sons, daughters and family too.
Some of us also live far away from family and so distance will be a factor in their Mothers day anyway, even without Lockdown and restrictions.
Loss of a child or not being able to have children – This one is something that really get’s overlooked during this time of year. It is so devastating for those who have lost children of all ages whether that be during pregnancy, during birth, childhood or even adulthood and those who cannot conceive too. It is a very lonely time and the pain that comes with it is awful. There are so many people who aren’t able to have their own children and the feeling of seeing others celebrating can be excruciating.
You then have those mothers who’s children have been removed by court order due to various circumstances. Although some may look at this differently, it is still a painful time for mothers who haven’t got custody of their children and is even harder for the children themselves who have to see others at school who are celebrating with their mothers.
Overall is it a really difficult time for many people from every walk of life. It is a really important topic and I hope that if you or someone is struggling, you can find ways to deal with your pain in a safe way. I have a post all about feel good things to do on Mothers day if you would like some light hearted things to do to help you cope with your emotions and promote self love and self care.
Thank you so much for reading! Please take care